The perfect relationship does not require perfection
from a couple in a relationship - married or not - but it simply means thatwhen there are disagreements, the couple
handle them with maturity and resolve them in a spirit of
love and understanding. - Kome ltoje
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Peace of Mind
Where can we find peace and happiness is a question that is constantly asked by men and women. I’ve read that happiness is a choice and a state of self-actualization or just simply a state of mind or feeling such as contentment, satisfaction, pleasure or joy in turn discovering who you really are.
When you ask most people what peace and happiness means to them, they usually answer: “they would be happy if they were rich and successful, if they met their ‘perfect’soul-mate, or if they had the ‘perfect’ job. Most of the answers I’ve read are of external conditions. In the past, I’ve even been guilty of giving the same response.
This thought process could lead to a negitive out come. People can be so caught up in the superficial definition of happiness; we tend to overlook the small joys of life. Of course, everyone wants to be successful financially, but how fulfilling would that be without happiness? Could we really be at peace if our bodies could not not rest the 7-8 hours as required rest because we don’t truly have a peace of mind? Money and success can’t replace the intimate moments shared with your significant other, the joy you receive watching your kids’ or grandchild smiles, or the shoulder of a solid and trusted friendship.
Though I don’t believe that our behaviors and emotions are 100% scientific and book descriptions are not always an fact and proven theory of humans, I do have to agree with the definition of happiness above. Happiness is a choice and a state of self-actualization. I choose to be happy and though I know that I am not perfect, I’m a lot better than I was yesterday. I am free to voice my feelings. And most importantly, I have the option of a better self.
When you ask most people what peace and happiness means to them, they usually answer: “they would be happy if they were rich and successful, if they met their ‘perfect’soul-mate, or if they had the ‘perfect’ job. Most of the answers I’ve read are of external conditions. In the past, I’ve even been guilty of giving the same response.
This thought process could lead to a negitive out come. People can be so caught up in the superficial definition of happiness; we tend to overlook the small joys of life. Of course, everyone wants to be successful financially, but how fulfilling would that be without happiness? Could we really be at peace if our bodies could not not rest the 7-8 hours as required rest because we don’t truly have a peace of mind? Money and success can’t replace the intimate moments shared with your significant other, the joy you receive watching your kids’ or grandchild smiles, or the shoulder of a solid and trusted friendship.
Though I don’t believe that our behaviors and emotions are 100% scientific and book descriptions are not always an fact and proven theory of humans, I do have to agree with the definition of happiness above. Happiness is a choice and a state of self-actualization. I choose to be happy and though I know that I am not perfect, I’m a lot better than I was yesterday. I am free to voice my feelings. And most importantly, I have the option of a better self.
Start with self
Ask yourself seriously and honestly… ” what can I do to improve myself or to get my ex back?” Maybe compiling a list of things that don’t like about yourself could help. Make sure you prioritize The Don't Like List making the most important one on top and the less important on the bottom. Everyday work on this list checking off each one as you feel it is getting much better. Remember don’t stop improving them just because you’ve put a check beside it. It takes time to make changes but you can do it. And Don't Forget To carry On doing The “DO LIKE” list too
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